Brand Brand New Tech, Old Norms
And even though Tinder had been mentioned as a brand new technical landscape where the ladies could explore diverse intimate and relational desires, conventional gendered norms often times permeated the records. One striking moment with this ended up being that when a match had been made, the ladies stayed passive and males had been anticipated to start the discussion: Sarah: in the event that you match somebody we simply don’t keep in touch with individuals unless they speak with me first. (Age: 25) Cassie: I’m just kind of swiping through and I also obtain a match and, we farmers only woman don’t do much about any of it I exactly like kind of delay
So although females could actively “like” the guys they desired, when they had been liked straight back, they waited for the guys to help make the very first move. Annie explicates why this might be the way it is:
Annie: i believe there’s the same as an expectation that you know like the guys are meant to do the hard work … you know it’s kind of like the new age thing of Tinder but there’s still the old school train of thought like the guy should make the first move (KA: yeah) so it’s kind of tradition with new technology put together … I would kind of be like if they want to talk to me they will talk to me kind of thing and it would be like if I was really desperate and bored that I would start conversation, like if I was really scraping the barrel (laughter) for it to be. (Age: 25)