Why would posting on social media do that? It’s not like you’re going to sit there and say “Hey, let’s get back together” or “Hey, you look really really sexy,” based on one post. You’re just not going to say that stuff (and it’s a good idea not to)!
But what you might do is maybe comment on a photo, or like a photo, or at the very least, watch his stories.
And if you do, it serves as a form of validation for him, a bit of attention from you that is going to give a little boost to his self-esteem.
Of course, you don’t have to give him that. If you use a No Contact rule to encourage him to miss you and regret not being with you, you won’t respond to anything, including social media content.
Here’s the thing that most people know perfectly well, but never talk about when it comes to social media and posting on it.
You rarely go onto someone’s Facebook profile and see exactly what they look like when they wake up in the morning.
You often see them at their most exciting moments, and sometimes people try to manufacture these moments as they go throughout the day.
They crop out the ugly building in the corner of the photo, they add filters or use software to brighten the photo, they add hashtags to make you think they’re having an amazing time. They take 20 different shots to get one good one. They think, hey, I look pretty cool right now, I’m going to take a selfie.
They will never do that when they’re doing something embarrassing or uncool – when they’ve just woken up, or they’re hungover or sick. Continue reading “Behavior #3: They Feel That Posting On Social Media Will Boost Their Self-Esteem”